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In This Issue: ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ What fun we had on the "Budget-Friendly Style" tele-seminar last week! We ended up running a bit over time, but there was SO much information and I didn't want to leave anything out. If you registered for the call but didn't receive the email about downloading the transcript and recording, please let me know as it did go out earlier this week.
So what's on tap for today's article? A look at the secret language of shoes.Enjoy!
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"You
know what you look like to me, with your good bag and your cheap
shoes? You look like a rube. A well scrubbed, hustling rube with a
little taste. Good nutrition has given you some length of bone, but
you're not more than one generation from poor white trash, are you,
Agent Starling?" So again, what do your shoes say about you? Here are some things to consider about women's shoes:
As you read over this list, you may notice that a lot of people wear shoes at times and places that are inappropriate for the style of the shoe, like flip flops in cold weather or tennis shoes to the ballet. These may seem like minor infractions in the grand scheme of things, but remember, your choice of shoe conveys a lot about you. Wearing shoes inappropriate to a place or time suggests that you don't know better - or that you can't afford proper shoes. Poor and uneducated? Not exactly the message most people want to send, particularly those who aspire to great things. So try a little experiment over the next few days: Look at people's shoes. Just glance at them as you go about your day, taking in styles, condition, and appropriateness. What do they reveal about the wearer? That she's pulled together - or sloppy and not into details? That he knows how to dress - or has no clue? I think you'll be surprised by what you discover, particularly with people you know. Then, take extra care with your own shoes. If they need to be re-soled or polished, take care of it. If they're dirty or worn out, clean or replace them. If they're inappropriate for certain situations, consider buying a pair or two that will help you meet your wardrobe needs. Because if people are going to make judgments about you based on your shoes - and they are - it only makes sense to be well-heeled.
************** Until next time,
Diana Pemberton-Sikes
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